When you have small differences, it makes them cute.
Or as Dan Savage calls it, we are “monogamish.” Even that can look really different from relationship to relationship.
One married couple I’m friends with has a couple of girlfriends between them, and they also have their own partners (she has both male and female partners, and he has female partners).
We were both always aware of the existence of other lovers, but it was clear that we were each other's favorite.
It occurred to us that we could keep the excitement and variety, and still let ourselves fall in love with each other. And since then I’ve gotten a lot of questions about how we make it work and why we would even do that in the first place.
All problems in relationships boil down to one thing: lack of communication. We are turf-oriented creatures, even with our most intimate relationships.
Whether our concerns relate to money, sex, kids, affection, career or any of the various reasons we fight or get angry, when we don't communicate our needs and discuss our differences, things will inevitably break down. We want to protect what's ours — emotionally, psychologically, and physically — often at the expense of those we love most.
And if you’re still in a new relationship, then go straight ahead and read 60 get-to-know-you questions in a new romance.
It’ll help you with all the right questions to get off on a perfect new relationship start.
In fourth grade, I got in trouble with my boyfriend because he found out I had another boyfriend.
Throughout high school and college, some of my relationships overlapped, and some were purely dishonest.